Sand Ceremony

When we got married, we had a sand ceremony during the wedding. It was really important to me, because it was a way to really show that it was so much more than love for Josh…. It was also a love for our family. His kids are in my heart forever, and I wanted to make sure they knew that. So, through examples online and bits and pieces I picked up from here and there, I added my own words and my own flair to create the following: Our Sand Ceremony.

Angel and Josh:

Welcome to the rest of your lives together! We are gathered here today on this blessed day to celebrate your love for each other and to join the two of you in marriage.

So I ask of you:  As you each hold your sand, imagine that each separate container represents your lives up until this moment; individual and unique. And, as we start this ceremony, keep in mind that; just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into individual containers, so will become the bond between you two.

Marriage is obviously all about love. But what is love?

Love is the eternal force of life. Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage. But although you will be sharing one life, never forget that you are two separate people. Cherish and affirm your differences. Love each other. Keep your commitment primary, but never lose sight of the love you feel today.

In first Corinthians, the bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. ”

Now, I’m sure you have heard that verse at some point in your live, But what exactly does it mean?

It means that love is not a feeling – it’s not something you can fall in to and out of on a whim. Love is a commitment. It is a deliberate decision to do loving things. It’s a deliberate decision to be patient and kind. It’s a deliberate decision not to be envious, boastful, proud, rude, or self-seeking. It’s a deliberate decision not to be easily angered, not to remember past wrongs, and to protect, trust, hope, and persevere for each other. Love doesn’t just happen, and I assure you, it can be hard work at times. It’s that commitment, and that deliberate decision, that you’re making here today. So, as you continue your journey together, I ask you to remember these simple words of advice:

– Let your love be stronger than your anger,

– Learn the wisdom of compromise – it is far better to bend than to break,

– Confide in each other and ask for help when you need it,

– Always be best friends,

– Never take each other for granted, and most importantly

– Remember to be in love every day.

But, you are joined together today, not only in marriage, but also as a family.

Allason, Walker, Madison, Zander and Kyrie:

Today they (Josh and Angel) are making a promise to one another. It is a
promise that whatever may happen, good or bad, they will always be there for one another.
But this promise is also a promise to you. You are already a family. They love you with all their
hearts, and no matter how big you get or where life takes you, they want you to know that that‘s
forever. In an effort to show that, you have been asked to be a part of this ceremony today.

So, as before, I now ask you to do the same:  As you each hold your sand, imagine that each separate container represents your lives up until this moment; individual and unique. And, as we continue with this ceremony, keep in mind that; just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into individual containers, so will become your bond as a family.

You will fight, you will love. There will be tears and hugs, fond memories and stories to tell. You will grow closer together with each passing day and you will never stop being a family. Remember that above all else, and never forget the promise that is being made today: the promise to be a forever family.

All of our different sands lined up in mason jars for the ceremony.

All of our different sands lined up in mason jars for the ceremony.

Getting ready to start.

Getting ready to start.

The three older kids. (Allason, Walker, Madison)

The three older kids. (Allason, Walker, Madison)

Uncle Pat had to help Zander pour his.

Uncle Pat had to help Zander pour his.

Aunt Christina had to help Kyrie pour hers.

Aunt Christina had to help Kyrie pour hers.

After each of us pouring our sand, this was the end result.

After each of us pouring our sand, this was the end result.

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4 responses to “Sand Ceremony

  1. WOW, how can I say this your growth as a human being and your wisdom is beyond your years. You actually brought tears to your old mans eyes as I read this. I this it was the most amazing, compassionate and loving thing I have ever seen in melding a family into one. I love you and am so proud of you. I may not have said this enough in the past but rest assured I want to say it many many times in the days and years to come.

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